It’s entirely normal for a relationship to go through several rough times and it practically happens to a lot of people who are in a long-term commitment. However, it’s a different story when you realize that you are no longer happy and thoroughly committed to the kind of connection you have. It is where you feel the lack of intimacy that somehow drags you down. So how would you know if you’re still into him? Here are some signs that can answer that question.
You Argue With Your Partner Either All The Time Or Never
Maryann W. Mathai, LPCC, LMHC, LPC, NCC used to say, “Humans are complex and all of us experience emotions like anger and sadness, so it’s very normal that at some point in the relationship, you will disagree with your partner.” If you find yourself in a situation that you quickly get annoyed and irritated on almost all of his actions and start to make it a big deal, then it’s time to think about ending the relationship. When you don’t seem to recognize the good things he does and you focus on the bad habits he has, maybe it’s because you already lost the affection you once had. Meanwhile, when you find yourself too tired to waste energy on arguing with him and don’t feel the need for fixing an issue, it also determines a loss of interest.
You No Longer Want To Spend Time With Him
You may not often see it, but when you stop wanting to spend time with your partner, it indicates a feeling that you no longer want him to become part of your life. You always see yourself busy doing different kinds of activities that will keep you away from him. You tend to ignore the fact that he even exists because his presence doesn’t seem to excite you anymore.
Lack Of Sexual Interest In Your Partner
Practically speaking, you sometimes lose interest in having sex because of several reasons such as being tired or busy at the moment. However, when you completely ignore the fact that you and your partner need sex, then that is the time that you might want to get out of the relationship. You don’t lose interest in someone you love unless you don’t care about their needs anymore.
You No Longer Feel Jealous
Though it can’t be enough indication of your lost affection for your partner, it is still a factor. It is when you start not to care about the people that your partner spends time with and other women merely don’t bother you anymore. At some point, it doesn’t seem to hurt at all. You don’t feel threatened, and you don’t see the importance of knowing them. Jeffrey J. Pipe, PsyD. describes “In relationships, stonewalling is the emotional equivalent to cutting off someone’s oxygen. The emotional detachment inherent to stonewalling is a form of abandonment and the effect that it has on a spouse is dramatic.”
You Start Looking At Other People – When you start to want things from other people and get frustrated when your partner doesn’t have that quality, then there is a problem in your relationship. When you fall out of love, you can easily get distracted by other people’s characters and somehow tend to compare that particular person to your partner. You now have this unbalanced preference that you use in making choices. Sometimes, you even imagine yourself being with someone else while still in the relationship with your partner. Remember, “While someone may not have crossed any physical boundaries with social media flirting, “liking”, and texting with emojis, experts believe it can turn into an emotional affair (i.e. an affair of the heart).” Sam Louie MA, LMHC said.
If you tend to notice these signs, then it’s probably time to make the decision to break up already. You are not only giving yourself a favor, but you’re also saving both yourselves from the depths of despair on being in a dull and lifeless relationship.