Being in the loop of the powerful influence of the internet is a good thing. You’ll be able to reach out to friends all over the world and meet different types of people. You don’t need to worry about the things you probably don’t know because you can easily access the web for information. Everything is available with just a click.
However, though the internet is useful, it has become a dangerous place for those people who are in a relationship. To know more about the reasons why it has become a danger zone for lovers, here’s why.
You Require An Update
“We don’t always know causation in psychology — especially without being able to measure something for a long time — but there are a lot of correlational studies that are pointing to social media and digital phone use,” says Alicia H. Clark, Psy.D., a licensed clinical psychologist. Providing the internet with too much information about you and your partner has become the primary focus of your relationship. You want everyone to know that you are in a commitment and you feel the need of showing it to the world. There’s actually nothing wrong with sharing your memories and flaunting how good your relationship is, but don’t you think you require some privacy?
You Rely On Other People’s Approval
“You have to get really clear with yourself first about what’s motivating you when you agree to do someone else a favor,” says Erika Martinez, PsyD. It seems as if you require validation of why both of you are together. You allow other people to influence your relationship because you are open about it on social media. Your social media interactions somehow affect your decisions because you want people to share your sentiments. You become dependent on them and rely on their comments and suggestions.
You Want To Look Perfect
Somehow, your previous relationship didn’t work maybe because you’re aiming for perfection. When social media gives you the power to control what you want others to see, you become more consistent in wanting attention. You choose to show them that you are in a perfect relationship but behind the posts, shares, and likes, you and your partner are actually struggling with fixing your indifferences.
You Communicate With Others Too Often
Since the way of communication is made easy with text and chat, you can now have easy access to start a conversation with other people. Nevertheless, it creates an issue in the relationship because it gives you tons of reasons to become unfaithful. Sometimes, social media interaction doesn’t help in solving romantic problems because other people are already becoming part of it without you noticing.
You Become An Open Book
Whether you are lying or telling people the truth about your relationship, everything doesn’t seem to matter. You try to adapt to the innovation and aim to catch up with the fast-moving technology without recognizing your need for psychological and emotional health. Your behavior becomes too adaptive that somehow makes it impossible for you to identify yourself. As a result, you want those changes you made to become the basis of your current relationship. However, “If your intention is to live a meaningful and healthy life, you will make decisions that support this intention, and feel good about yourself when you succeed in this purpose.” Deborah Khoshaba Psy.D. explains.
Social media helps us in a lot of ways. However, when we allow it to interfere in our lives whenever we create a decision, that’s the time that we need to take a step backward and try to evaluate things around us. Are we getting too needy of social media attention? Are we trying to validate our relationship through likes and shares? Do we need to sustain the relationship without an emotional attachment? Well, you know those questions aren’t answerable on the internet.