Are you mature enough to handle a relationship? Do you often see yourself assuming things that aren’t supposed to happen? Or do you find yourself acting like a total weirdo every time things get out of hand? If so, then maybe you are not yet ready for a serious and long commitment.
You may practically see it as a standard behavior of a wife that contributes to marriage, but the truth is that it has nothing to do with the development of a relationship. Here are the things that can determine your immaturity when it comes to your relationships.
You Demand And Expect Too Much
Dr. Karen Ruskin, Psy.D. used to say that “If a woman starts by saying, ‘I care about you so much that I want you to be healthy,’ the discussion may not deteriorate. You are being mindful of their health and wellness,” she said. “If you preface your desire with a love statement, your mate may hear you through that lens of love and care.” However, your traits of immaturity can go a long way. Demanding something is common for all women, but with limitations. You can probably consider requiring him to spend time with you, and that’s it. Wanting him to push his boundaries so he can be able to provide the things that you wish to have is unacceptable. You’re not helping him at all. You’re trying to use him for your interest instead.
You Stop Him From Socializing With Others
Though there’s a positive side of keeping your husband from people that are not contributing anything for his developmental growth, you shouldn’t stop him from making friends and getting to know different types of people. Isolating him will only make him feel helpless and worthless. He may stop learning new things that can supposedly help in the progress of his personality development.
You Are Insolently Clinging Onto Him
There’s no rule when it comes to showing affection towards your loved one. However, when you feel the need of clinging onto him all the time, then you probably want to consider losing the grip. It will only make you less capable of handling a situation without him and become more dependent. There’s a tendency that he might feel pressured and get annoyed.
You Nag But Don’t Want To Listen
Commonly, women are natural naggers. However, nagging without the intention of listening after is a sign that you are incapable of committing. Your relationship is not all about you, and the more you try to put it that way, the more you’ll experience disappointments. When you nag, make sure that you have to sustain a valuable argument and not just say things out of nowhere. You need to listen and allow your partner to explain his side as well.
You Always Find It Easy To Compare Him To Others
You probably have your own set of standards when it comes to your preference in men. However, comparing him to others is a sign of profound immaturity. You don’t enter a relationship because you want someone that is perfect enough for you. You commit because you acknowledge the fact that your partner’s imperfection is something that you can accept and love.
You Forcibly Try To Change Him
“There are many types of toxic relationships such as a controlling or manipulative, negative, self-centered or narcissistic, dishonest, insecure, abusive, blaming or demanding and competitive, and secretive, and dramatic,” says Catherine Jackson, a licensed clinical psychologist and neurotherapist. Think about this, before you even met your partner, he has his personality. He preferably knows what he wants and what he doesn’t like. Trying to change his character into something that would please you is an act of childishness. You are not allowed to force a person to change without their will to do it. It will be either you accept his character or find someone else that will suit your preference.
If and when you happen to see these signs in your relationship, you might want to consider a step back and try to evaluate yourself for you to be able to know if you are fit to be in a relationship. Note that “Relationships in and of themselves do not create mental illness.” However, he adds, “When we suffer in our relationships, it can be difficult to move forward from past hurt and trauma.” As explained by Jor-El Caraballo, LMHC. Though there are no qualifications involved in committing, you can at least try to determine your weak points and work on them to your advantage.