Have you ever wonder why there are people in your life that does not want you anymore? Have you questioned yourself about the type of personality you have that makes people unloving? Is there a significant chance that you understand how your behavior is affecting the way others connect with you. Are you unaware of your words and actions toward others’ feelings and opinions? If you know you are not making any slight offense that others cannot take, then maybe it is not you that is the problem. Perhaps the way you see things is different from the rest. So instead of them accepting you, they leave you because you tend to be distinctive. If you are confident that your personality, behavior, and self-expression are not the cause of why the people around you leave, then perhaps here are the grounds.
You Are Brutally Honest
“Most people have a loud inner critic which makes their life more stressful,” says David Klow, a licensed therapist. In case you haven’t noticed, people do not like it when others tell them the truth. No one wants to hear the truth because they get overwhelmed with lots of lies. That is the problem with people. So when you are brutally honest, people think that your opinions and suggestions are not worthy. You become a type of person with less of a value. Most of your friends, family, co-workers, and schoolmates will think that your honesty is something that rips them the ability to enjoy whatever lies are in front of them. These people believe that regardless of what you are telling them is true, as long as it hurts, it will never mean a thing.
You Refuse To Blend With The Crowd
There is this mentality that when you try to be yourself, you get judged. People do not feel comfortable when someone is not blending in with the majority. That is because a lot of them are afraid to get left behind. “If your intention is to live a meaningful and healthy life, you will make decisions that support this intention, and feel good about yourself when you succeed in this purpose.” Deborah Khoshaba Psy.D. explains. Everyone thinks of reaching the top no matter what. So when someone is nearly there, these losers always have something negative to say. They take all your power and motivation to do things that is self-satisfying because they are not satisfied with what they do in their lives. With that, they convince more morons to hate and discriminate you for being different.
You Love Yourself More Than Anything
What is more mind-boggling with a lot of people is their hate towards individuals who love themselves. They look at these self-loving people as self-centered, biased, and inconsiderate ones. Funny, because these unworthy people who don’t know how to appreciate others tell everyone that loving one’s self is a selfish act. However, they do not realize that self-love is the only thing that can save people from having emotional and mental agony.
Honestly, these people who complain about you being brutally honest, different, and self-loving, are the worst people to have in life. Let them go and let them leave you. Fran Walfish, PsyD says, “When trying to keep a positive attitude, you must avoid people who thrive on negativity.” Do not worry because it is not your fault to be unique. It is their problem for having misperception towards people like you who can stand proud of being exceptional.